That’s What Friends Are For

By: Christina Ferrari
@cm_ferrari3

The long Labor Day weekend reminded me how good it feels to do nothing with the people you love. Bonding over brunch, laughing at inside jokes during long walks, having late night phone dates, and random adventures together with friends can be exactly the kind of thing we need to shake ourselves out of a funk. This was my experience Friday night, Saturday morning, Sunday afternoon, and all day Monday with different clusters of people I have called friends for years—many of whom I haven’t seen in ages.

One thing that truly amazes me is that no matter how much time goes by, we always seem to pick up where we left off. We can go weeks, even months not talking, and once we are reunited it just snaps back into place. I have realized as I’ve gotten older that life will inevitably try to get in the way of making memories with those we care about—but the trick is to remember that it’s never an excuse and there is ALWAYS time for what (and who) matters...it just may take advanced planning.

In this day and age, in this field, we will always have work, always need to juggle multiple commitments, and I know personally I’m always going to be busy because that’s the way I know how (and like) to live. But, I’m also a huge social butterfly and I make it a priority to balance things out by taking time to schedule friend dates. My friends know they often need to get on my calendar weeks in advance because not only is my life crazy, they’re also generally swamped running around doing way more incredible things than me anyway. So, it might be during a trip to the store (as was the case Monday afternoon) but no matter what, my friends and I always find a way to catch up and make it work, despite the chaos that tries to come between us.

Friends are people who offer to make dinner so you can spend more time studying. Friends are people who send a letter out of the blue, just to remind you how beautiful of a person you are. Friends make you drop everything to go out dancing because they know you need a little time to unwind. Friends are often those who know us better than ourselves, and whether it’s a lazy long weekend or a two minute pep talk as you head to work, true friends will give the time you need to vent, laugh, cry, yell, or just sit in silence with someone who understands you.  Friends know not only what you’re up to these days, but who you are and will do what they can to be what you need. I am so grateful for the people in my life who have shown me friendship, and I work each day toward being a friend they deserve.
How do you maintain friendships despite living very different lives, in different time zones, or having different schedules?


What have you done to ensure there is time to be a friend to others?

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1 comment :

  1. Great post! It is definitely important (that in a busy season like this) we take time for our friends but also to support our friends.

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